This is the topic under discussion on the television shows today. It set me thinking about all the persons that I am acqainted with, that have undergone a divorce.
The most talked about separation of the present is of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. They were together since 2005, so that is almost eleven years and then they had kids and adopted kids and now they have separated. It is so sad when love turns to hatred.
Muslims have the triple talaq remedy for husbands who want to break off, but for christians it is not even possible to break away. I am aware of many christian couples who would prefer to get a divorce from each other but their religion does not even allow it easily. It is such a tiring and long drawn out process that many of them just live separately without any legal end to their relationship.
For Parsees too, the process of divorce is full of red tapism and religious rigmaroles.
Women seek divorce because the husband is violent, and beats her up, or he is a philanderer and has random affairs with the knowledge of the wife, or he is impotent or gay and cannot fulfill her sexual needs and desires. A husband's demand for unnatural sex is also an issue for divorce. Or if the husband is jobless and is a drunkard and a drug abuser and lives off the wife's salary. These are specific cases that I have personal knowledge of.
Men seek divorce because they have fallen out of love with their present spouse and want to enter into a new relationship with a younger woman. Or if the wife has not been able to become a mother.
Many intercaste marriages end because the interfering in-laws disapprove of the wife. Sooner or later, the groom's family manage to poison his mind against his choice of a wife and instigate the divorce. Saifali wanted to philander with a younger woman, and Javed Akhtar wanted a thin and rich woman, so easy for them to walk off and divroce the woman who loved them and produced babies for them.
So, in this scheme of things, considering the Indian scenario, triple talaq by a muslim, doesn't seem so cruel. I think that any divorce is cruel. And mainly to the woman who is the emotional loser in such break ups.
The most talked about separation of the present is of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. They were together since 2005, so that is almost eleven years and then they had kids and adopted kids and now they have separated. It is so sad when love turns to hatred.
Muslims have the triple talaq remedy for husbands who want to break off, but for christians it is not even possible to break away. I am aware of many christian couples who would prefer to get a divorce from each other but their religion does not even allow it easily. It is such a tiring and long drawn out process that many of them just live separately without any legal end to their relationship.
For Parsees too, the process of divorce is full of red tapism and religious rigmaroles.
Women seek divorce because the husband is violent, and beats her up, or he is a philanderer and has random affairs with the knowledge of the wife, or he is impotent or gay and cannot fulfill her sexual needs and desires. A husband's demand for unnatural sex is also an issue for divorce. Or if the husband is jobless and is a drunkard and a drug abuser and lives off the wife's salary. These are specific cases that I have personal knowledge of.
Men seek divorce because they have fallen out of love with their present spouse and want to enter into a new relationship with a younger woman. Or if the wife has not been able to become a mother.
Many intercaste marriages end because the interfering in-laws disapprove of the wife. Sooner or later, the groom's family manage to poison his mind against his choice of a wife and instigate the divorce. Saifali wanted to philander with a younger woman, and Javed Akhtar wanted a thin and rich woman, so easy for them to walk off and divroce the woman who loved them and produced babies for them.
So, in this scheme of things, considering the Indian scenario, triple talaq by a muslim, doesn't seem so cruel. I think that any divorce is cruel. And mainly to the woman who is the emotional loser in such break ups.
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